Tuesday, May 13, 2014

And The Drama Queen Award Goes To........KENYA MOORE!

Let's be real. We all have watched Real Housewives of Atlanta, and if you're like me, you've probably seen all of the seasons. So, let me turn your attention to a particular cast mate, Miss Kenya Moore. She is this BIGGEST drama starter on the show, stirring up turmoil between her and her cast mates. A few in particular would be Miss Porcha, Miss Phaedra, and Miss NeNe, none of which have any problem laying hands or words to Kenya when the time is necessary. For all of you viewers that haven't kept track of the show, let's go back to the beginning of the latest season (Season 6). Kenya took it upon herself to create an issue at NeNe's adult slumber party. With that situation, NeNe brought up an issue about Kenya saying that a fellow wife's husband wasn't really her husband. She stated that he had told the public that he didn't "claim" her as his wife, and that they had a "common law" marriage. My reaction was this: who are you, as a woman, to come into someone's love life and wreak havoc? Is it because everyone on the show has a man but you? Moving on, Cynthia threw her annual Bailey Bowl. There was much tension between NeNe and Marlo simply because NeNe didn't want to be friends with Marlo anymore. The incident should've died right there, but Kenya took things a step further by saying some off of the wall things about NeNe and her friendship. That was not her place to even come in between NeNe and Marlo and the issues that they had between each other. The highlight of the show did not happen until Kenya made things apparent that she saw Miss Phaedra's husband, Apollo, as more than a friend. Throughout season six of the show, Kenya avidly made Apollo a topic of discussion. She made it a priority to put herself in the same airspace as him, even though Phaedra told her time and time again not to mess with her husband. The issue came to ahead on the Season 6 Reunion pt.3, where Phaedra shut Kenya and her comments down. Phaedra's entire stand point was that Kenya constantly makes Apollo a topic of discussion, but Kenya find herself going from sperm bank to sperm bank just to have a child because she couldn't find a marriage (much less a man) on her own. This was her last stitch effort to have the baby that she's always wanted. I do feel like Phaedra was not in the wrong, plus Kenya had given herself the title of "Queen of the Shade". I feel all of the drama she has created, and all of the friendships she has ruined is finally coming back to haunt her. If that situation wasn't bad enough, she thoroughly put Miss Porcha in a bad headspace by doing with Kenya does best: THE MOST. If the septor didn't cause Porsha's blood to boil, the sudden use a blow-horn certainly did the trick. Porsha snapped. Kenya got her behind handed to her on the silver platter she thought she thought she deserved. And we all know, Kenya deserved that, and then some.
All in all, Kenya tried so hard to create friends on the show. Maybe she felt like she didn't have anybody. Maybe she needed the attention because everyone else had something going on in their lives. You have Miss Kandy with her play and her wedding. You have Miss NeNe with her fame and her guest appearances and reoccurring roles on various shows. Miss Cynthia has her bar and her modeling agency. Miss Phaedra has her new degree, her law firm, and her funeral home. Miss Porsha has a leg up with where she wants to go in life with being a cast mate in Kandy's play. Finally, you have Kenya: broke, single by default, and nothing going on in her life. It makes sense for a woman that desperate for attention to want to stir up a bunch of drama amongst women who have things going on and marriages to tend to. MORAL OF THE STORY: If Kenya Moore spent less time trolling through sperm banks and getting on people's nerves, and more time building her brand and building herself up as a middle-aged, black female, maybe she would have a husband and maybe she would have some actual friends. Remember, no one wants to be friends with a drama starter.

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Cheating is for Dummies

Do you ever get the feeling in the pit of your stomach that your significant other is a little bit distant, or extra, EXTRA happy when you know you aren't the reason behind the smile? Well, your significant other may just be stepping out on you.
There are various reasons why men and women feel it necessary to cheat: stress at home, stress at work, finances, or it's just not where they want to be. If you are unsure if your man or woman is cheating, here are some telltale signs that you may not be the only one (these are signs that I've seen or experienced. Feel free to add your own signs if necessary.)

1. If this person has to delete ANYTHING off of their phone, computer, tablet, or any other electronic device, it's time for your red flags to soar high. If this person really cares for you and has nothing to hide, what would be there to delete? You should be allowed to check emails, text messages, call logs, and social networking sites with no problem, and that person should have no problem letting you. If that person says no, something is going on and you should probably investigate just to make sure. With that being said, you may find pictures of naked females (or males), some raunchy text messages, or random phone calls in the middle of the night. If this is the case, something is going on. But usually if there is something incriminating in that person's phone, chances are you won't even get the opportunity to actually go through anything.
2. If that person comes up with a million and five different excuse for why you can't go through any of their stuff, INVESTIGATE. There is nothing like gathering hard evidence to prove your theory.
3. If that person starts coming home later and later from work, and you know for a fact that they usually don't come home that late, it's time to pay attention. Especially if it has become habitual, like an everyday thing.
4. If you and your significant other share an account and you notice that there are some funds missing, check it out. When you do check things out and notice that there are charges from places such as Victoria Secret, or Bath and Body Works (for women), and Men's Warehouse (for men), then the red flag has to be drawn. My suggestion is to start asking questions immediately, especially if you know you don't wear Victoria's Secret or shop at Men's Warehouse.
5. If that person has to step outside the house, or go into another room just to have a phone conversation, it's time to pay attention. I would ask that age old question, "who were you talking to", or "since when do you need to step out of the room just to answer the phone?" There should be NO secret conversations going on in a relationship, unless someone has something to hide.
6. If your house phone, or your significant other's cell phone, is ringing at ungodly hours of the night and morning, and it is NOT family or children, what is that? RED FLAG. No one should be calling your house at anytime during the midnight hours unless it's a family emergency, or a family death. Otherwise, it's no excuse.
7. If your significant other has been working ALLLLLLLL day, but comes home smelling like a fresh shower, that's a telltale sign that your love is cheating. How did you manage to smell like soap, when you have been working all day long? The sense is not adding up.
8. If your significant other is constantly accusing you of cheating, it might be because they're the ones out there doing the cheating. They just want to take the attention off of them so that you don't find out what it is they are really doing when they aren't at home. This isn't always the case though. In fact, this sign is only significant when you honestly know that YOU have been 100% faithful.
This is just some of many signs that your significant other is being unfaithful. I do suggest that if you feel like that person is stepping out on you, then investigate your theory. Ask questions and pay attention to what is going on. Spot the differences and the changes in habits and routines. What you never want to do is to come at that person with a whole bunch of different accusations and rumors without any proof that infidelity is actually going on. MORAL OF THE STORY: Pay attention to what changes, and have proof before you start pointing the finger.

Saturday, May 3, 2014

Hart vs. Epps Beef

I know you all have heard about the Kevin vs. Mike beef. Apparently, Mike Epps went on K104 , in Dallas, and said some not so nice things about the Think Like A Man costar and his rise to fame. The beef then escalated when Kevin Hart fired shots against Mike Epps via Twitter, calling Mike Epps a hater. My Opinion? Let's be real about this for a minute. Kevin Hart is wildly successful with various movies and sold-out shows. He is one of the most successful comedians in the game right now. I say, leave it alone because regardless of whether it's his talent or his excellent marketing team, the check still clears at the end of the day. Don't get me wrong though. Mike Epps has had his share of funnies from Next Friday to All About the Benjamins, but it's just like that Nicki Minaj vs. Lil Kim beef. His time has come and gone. I will always consider him one of the greats of my era (dating myself there lol), but its time to pass the torch along. Not to mention, this is 2014. Everything, involving the media, is overly marketed to the audiences today......especially children and teenagers. MORAL OF THE STORY: Mike Epps needs to sit on his throne and let lil Kevin Hart take over. I mean, he is hilarious!

Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Donald Sterling Ban ???

I wanted to take some time before i could address the Donald Sterling incident (Los Angeles Clippers owner who was recorded telling a girlfriend that he didn’t want her to bring black people to his games just in case you've been living under a rock) and gather my thoughts to tackle the Gorilla in the room.
Donald Sterling, the longtime owner of the Los Angeles Clippers, was barred from the N.B.A. for life and may be forced to sell the team for making racist remarks, the league commissioner, Adam Silver, announced today.Sterling’s time as owner of the Clippers has been marked by player unrest, accusations of racism and sexism, and until the team began winning consistently three years ago, incompetent basketball management.You could also look into his past exploits such as refusing to rent to minority families, having a racist attitude during negotiations,or moving his franchise to Los Angeles without league approval.Banning a billionaire for life and fining him 2.5 million is like putting a Band Aid on a gunshot wound, and to be honest i didn't really care about what he said, i'm more worried about a group of people like him that continues to deny people of a certain shade opportunities (jobs,housing,bank loans) or the police, prosecutor, and the judge that will change your life, i don't care if you're racist just get out of our way, banning Sterling just was a message to the corporations to keep denying Blacks access and opportunity as long as they keep it under wraps.This is not a time to rejoice as if 40 Acres and A Mule are being given.I love how people celebrate "Victories" that deliver no change, how quick do people forget when the same situations has been reappearing repetitively.

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Atlanta Housewife, Porsha, Needs a Round of Applause!!

So, I know all of you Real Housewives of Atlanta fans saw the Reunion on Sunday. If you didn't, you've missed out because fan favorite, Porsha, had done the unthinkable. Just to recap, Kenya was doing the absolute most with her whole septor and what not. That was what first made Porsha so upset. The final moments of sanity went out the window when Kenya pulls out a bullhorn, and then says some choice words to Porsha.....and Porsha reacted the way that she did. My opinion? Porsha did EXACTLY what she was supposed to do. We all know that Kenya's had her hands in a lot of drama throughout the past few seasons, but this particular season was out of hand. I mean, all of the fans out there watched the season, so no need to recap. She did the absolute most, creating massive amounts of drama amongst the circle. So, I see no reason why anything Porsha did was so bad. I do not feel like she embarrassed herself at all, and I do think that Kenya got what she deserved. You can't expect to create drama amongst females and not expect the outcome to be horrible. Not to mention, anybody on that stage would've jumped on Kenya had they been provoked......but it was Porsha, and karma is a bitch. I'm on #TeamPorsha 100%!!

Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Smell The Coffee!!!!

It seems as if people not deliberately making a fool of themselves,they will not get the platform needed to advance their cause.But that should not be an excuse to lose your common sense and just do Dumb Shit (look at reality TV,Twitter,News etc... for further reference).People like to pretend as if they have sense and purpose,as if they have a secret that the rest of the world couldn't do without, and at the end it's just hot air and no substance.Everybody is putting on to some extent in order to mask their insecurities, and when criticized for their actions, their only retort is that they're getting money.... As if that will prevent them from looking like clowns.When does it stop ? When are we going to use our logic instead of our emotions? We have been taught to scream and yell when faced with a problem and look at the lovely results it has produced.It's like being lost in the highway while closing your eyes and stepping on the Gas.I feel that we need to focus on the task at hand while disregarding trivial things that are proving to be detrimental to our well being.

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Love Begins At Home

NOTE: The views expressed here are those of the authors and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views of WSCT Grind or it's affiliates.

We cannot walk around talking about how much we love each other because it's a grand lie that only spreads the poison that is affecting us a whole.We should admit that we can't stand ourselves nor each other,and the first people that we should admit it to is the person that we face in the mirror. It's like telling the judge that you've murdered your significant other because you loved him/her, where's the rationale ? We are just grinning from ear to ear to talking about love in a system where injustice reigns supreme,and i'm here to tell you that it's time for another approach which is to minimize conflict by keeping our distance from each other until we have something to say or do that is of  constructive value to improve our situation.It's time to become comfortable with who we are by ourselves in order to give something of value to the collective,or we will straggle in the same confusion that has kept us captive for so long due to our self hatred.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Mimi Faust: Let's Talk About It!

Mimi Faust is known for her relationship with Stevie J, on VH1's Love and Hip-Hop: Atlanta. However these days, she is know for her steamy sex-tape with long time boyfriend, Niko. This is the same Mimi Faust that constantly downgraded Joseline Hernandez, new girlfriend to Stevie J. She called her every name in the book from stripper hoe, to slut, to BITCH! My Opinion? Mimi needs to shut that shit down. You have officially labelled yourself what society calls A HOE. Now by all means, if putting out a sex tape makes you happy, then do so. However, please discontinue calling other women out of their names. She has officially put herself in that same category Joseline is in. The only difference is Joseline just doesn't care about what people call her. Mimi apparently does since she recently posted a photo on Instagram saying, "If you don't pay my bills, shh." My thing is nobody is talking about the fact that she actually posted a sex-tape online for the world to see, but the fact that she had so much to say about Joseline being a stripper. I wonder what she plans to say about Joseline now. It is likely that it won't be much because now, Joseline has some ammo to use against Mimi. But Mimi set herself up for that. Moral of the Story: Make sure your hands are squeaky clean before you go passing judgement on someone else. Mimi Faust can't (and I doubt she ever would) say anything about Joseline, so it's time for her and insults to have a few seats because she is officially no better.