Cheating is for Dummies

Do you ever get the feeling in the pit of your stomach that your significant other is a little bit distant, or extra, EXTRA happy when you know you aren't the reason behind the smile? Well, your significant other may just be stepping out on you.
There are various reasons why men and women feel it necessary to cheat: stress at home, stress at work, finances, or it's just not where they want to be. If you are unsure if your man or woman is cheating, here are some telltale signs that you may not be the only one (these are signs that I've seen or experienced. Feel free to add your own signs if necessary.)

1. If this person has to delete ANYTHING off of their phone, computer, tablet, or any other electronic device, it's time for your red flags to soar high. If this person really cares for you and has nothing to hide, what would be there to delete? You should be allowed to check emails, text messages, call logs, and social networking sites with no problem, and that person should have no problem letting you. If that person says no, something is going on and you should probably investigate just to make sure. With that being said, you may find pictures of naked females (or males), some raunchy text messages, or random phone calls in the middle of the night. If this is the case, something is going on. But usually if there is something incriminating in that person's phone, chances are you won't even get the opportunity to actually go through anything.
2. If that person comes up with a million and five different excuse for why you can't go through any of their stuff, INVESTIGATE. There is nothing like gathering hard evidence to prove your theory.
3. If that person starts coming home later and later from work, and you know for a fact that they usually don't come home that late, it's time to pay attention. Especially if it has become habitual, like an everyday thing.
4. If you and your significant other share an account and you notice that there are some funds missing, check it out. When you do check things out and notice that there are charges from places such as Victoria Secret, or Bath and Body Works (for women), and Men's Warehouse (for men), then the red flag has to be drawn. My suggestion is to start asking questions immediately, especially if you know you don't wear Victoria's Secret or shop at Men's Warehouse.
5. If that person has to step outside the house, or go into another room just to have a phone conversation, it's time to pay attention. I would ask that age old question, "who were you talking to", or "since when do you need to step out of the room just to answer the phone?" There should be NO secret conversations going on in a relationship, unless someone has something to hide.
6. If your house phone, or your significant other's cell phone, is ringing at ungodly hours of the night and morning, and it is NOT family or children, what is that? RED FLAG. No one should be calling your house at anytime during the midnight hours unless it's a family emergency, or a family death. Otherwise, it's no excuse.
7. If your significant other has been working ALLLLLLLL day, but comes home smelling like a fresh shower, that's a telltale sign that your love is cheating. How did you manage to smell like soap, when you have been working all day long? The sense is not adding up.
8. If your significant other is constantly accusing you of cheating, it might be because they're the ones out there doing the cheating. They just want to take the attention off of them so that you don't find out what it is they are really doing when they aren't at home. This isn't always the case though. In fact, this sign is only significant when you honestly know that YOU have been 100% faithful.
This is just some of many signs that your significant other is being unfaithful. I do suggest that if you feel like that person is stepping out on you, then investigate your theory. Ask questions and pay attention to what is going on. Spot the differences and the changes in habits and routines. What you never want to do is to come at that person with a whole bunch of different accusations and rumors without any proof that infidelity is actually going on. MORAL OF THE STORY: Pay attention to what changes, and have proof before you start pointing the finger.